Solitude is both a blessing and a curse.
Freedom for the mind to wander wherever it may choose, but also a palatable sense of solemn contemplation.
The mind is a wonderful thing.
However, as one’s mind opens up to more emotion riddled, pain-stricken thoughts, one may wish to lose the recollection of such happenings in one’s life.
Utter joy can take a turn for the worst into near depression with the remembrance of ONE single downtrodden moment.
A successful occurrence can eradicate the memory of a difficult situation or, in my mind, simply be viewed as a diamond in the rough cluttered by misfortune.
In an effort to remove this “cynical” way of thinking, one (myself included) must “remember to forget”.
Forget the pain and leave behind the anger built up inside.
However, one must not forget the lessons learned.
Knowledge gained must be retained and emotions associated with these events must be left behind.
Even positive emotions can cloud the severity of the lesson learned from a situation.
For the soft-hearted, emotion is looked at as a source of distress.
Whenever emotions are involved, the heart (in the figurative sense rather than the physical heart) is put in danger.
Danger that often takes a toll on the emotional health of those looking for satisfaction.
A common situation in which the heart is involved is one’s search for love.
Love itself and its pursuit could be discussed in endless volumes.
As it relates to the heart and the mind, the concept is man-made.
The severity of the words “I love you” is incredibly volatile and only the individual who’s mouth utters them can be certain of their meaning.
When used often this phrase loses its meaning and serves more as a substitute for “goodbye”.
The main indicator of the volatility of love is the ease with which it can be “lost”.
A relationship may last for 2 years, but once the situation goes awry and the mutual benefit attributed to both sides of the party is eliminated, THE LOVE DISAPPEARS!
Those who follow the optimistic belief that “Love is forever” most likely are clenching on to their “love” as one hanging off of a steep cliff would or HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED THE EMOTIONAL TURMOIL OF A LOST LOVE.
How can love be forever? If something is truly to last forever, it will last no matter what comes in its way. Come hell or high water; through rain, hail, sleet, and snow. If an argument over the most trivial subject can cause something like love to be erased, IT IS NOT FOREVER!
In reality, the real world we live in as opposed to the idealistic one that some choose to “hide” themselves in, love is something held by one who is completely and utterly devoted to maintaining the “fire” in his or her heart for whatever the love may be directed towards.
In the case of love between two human beings, the feeling will only remain so long as both persons in the relationship maintain the same blinding devotion to one another as when the love was “sparked” simultaneously in both minds.
You cannot “learn”to love someone…
If one’s love ignites a similar feeling in another, the love is doomed to eventual deterioration and all of the mental anguish brought along with such an occurrence.
Yet another indication of the volatility of love is divorce.
Two individuals swear to themselves and those who witness their union through love that the connection will remain “until death do us part”. However, this sworn statement is quickly destroyed once their love decays with time.
LOVE is not forever! This statement is utterly wrong. In reality, TRUE LOVE lasts forever.
It is projected that nearly 50% of marriages end in DIVORCE. Therefore, the love proclaimed at the beginning of the joining through marriage WAS NOT TRUE.
This is not to say that the marriages that do not end up in divorce always involve true love…
Honestly speaking, true love cannot be evaluated by an outside source (therefore so-called “marriage counseling” is absolute bull-shit). The presence of true, unending love can only be determined by both persons during a time of distress.
